I need to address something urgent about Lily. I was told she was picked up by Brianna and that you’re planning to transfer her to a different school. Under our custody agreement, educational decisions are, so I cannot agree to a school change without discussing it together.
Please confirm in writing what you told Lily and the reasons for this decision. I’m asking that we pause any enrollment or transfer until we meet or mediate and reach an agreement. If you’ve already started paperwork with the school, tell me where so I can contact them as well.
For Lily’s sake, it’s important we handle this cooperatively. I’m available to talk on
I’m 36, and I share custody of my 12-year-old daughter Lily with my ex-husband, Mark. He’s recently remarried Brianna, a stay-at-home mom with two of her own kids. Money has always been tight for him, so I’ve been footing Lily’s private school tuition and other expenses since I earn more.
But lately, Lily has been coming home in plain, cheap clothes. She told me Brianna showers her daughters with nice outfits—while Lily gets hand-me-downs or Target basics. Anger and embarrassment overwhelmed me.
Then, while I was out of town, Brianna picked up Lily from school—for the first time. When I arrived later to take her home, Brianna told Lily she was still grounded, despite never speaking to me first. As if that wasn’t enough, Mark and Brianna informed me that they’d decided to transfer Lily to a regular public school. “It’s not fair,” they said, “for her to get private education when Brianna’s daughters don’t.” I was speechless—hurt, betrayed, and blindsided.
