He used to adore her — until marriage made her the punchline. Public “jokes,” flirty games, and one brutal night at a bar pushed her past her limit. When he introduced her as his sister, she stopped crying and started planning a surprise he’d never laugh off.
Dave used to be the man of my dreams.
He used to sneak up behind me while dinner simmered on the stove, wrap his arms around my waist, and sway to whatever song was playing in his head.
He was the man who once drove three hours through a thunderstorm just to surprise me with a slice of key lime pie from the little diner we discovered on our second date.
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But that man vanished somewhere between “I do” and our first anniversary.
Suddenly, I found myself married to a man who wielded charm like a scalpel and called his cruelty comedy.
It began small, the way these things always do.
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He made a teasing remark about my appearance to the supermarket cashier, coupled with a wink that made her giggle.
And if I mentioned how flirty he got with strangers, he’d just smirk.
“I was just kidding around,” he’d say. “What happened to your sense of humor?”
And you know what? I started wondering the same thing.
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So I tried to relax.
I laughed along and tried to be the cool wife who didn’t care when her husband’s eyes lingered a little too long on other women, who didn’t flinch when he made comments about my appearance in front of his friends.
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“She used to be a knockout,” he told his buddy Mark one evening, gesturing at me like I wasn’t sitting right there. “Still is, when she makes an effort.”
The room went quiet for a heartbeat.
Then Mark laughed, and I smiled because that’s what I was supposed to do. That’s what the cool wife would do.
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But those moments started piling up like stones in my chest, each one heavier than the last.
Dave always had an odd sense of humor, but hearing him crack jokes about a stranger with eccentric fashion sense or a contestant on a reality show wasn’t the same as being the butt of his jokes.
I hoped he’d catch the hint eventually and cut it out, but it only got worse.
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One night, he begged me to go to a party with him.
I wasn’t in the mood to make conversation with people I barely knew, but I went anyway.
I was nursing a glass of wine, trying to look engaged in a conversation about real estate trends, when I felt his arm slide around my shoulders.
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“This is a very dear friend of a friend,” he announced to a laughing brunette who’d been monopolizing his attention all evening.
The woman laughed. “How nice to meet you, friend of Dave’s friend.”
I pulled him aside, my cheeks burning with embarrassment and confusion. “What was that about?”
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“What was what about?” His eyes sparkled with mischief, like a kid who’d just pulled off the perfect prank.
“The friend of a friend thing. That was… weird.”
“Oh, come on.” He chuckled, shaking his head. “You should’ve seen your face. It was hilarious.”
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Hilarious. That word became his shield, his get-out-of-jail-free card for every cruel comment and every public humiliation.
A few weeks later, we ran into his college buddy Josh at the grocery store. Josh asked how we met, and my husband snapped his fingers like he was trying to recall something just out of reach.
“Damn, what’s your name again?” he said, looking right at me.
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Josh laughed, Dave laughed, and the cool wife should’ve laughed, too, but I just didn’t have it in me anymore.
It was starting to feel like my marriage was just a skit. It seemed like Dave made a performance out of everything, and delivered each line with the same comedic timing he used when mimicking politicians on late-night TV.
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“Very funny,” I said, but my voice came out smaller than I intended.
“See? She gets it,” he told Josh, winking. “That’s why I married her. Great sense of humor.”
The final straw came on a Tuesday night at our usual bar.
I’d decided to let myself have fun for once, regardless of my wise-cracking husband and his moronic jokes.
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I ordered wine instead of water, laughed at the bartender’s stories, and didn’t even tense up when our waitress lingered at our table, flirting shamelessly with my husband.
I was feeling lighter than I had in months when I excused myself to the restroom.
When I came back, I heard the waitress giggling.
“Oh, my God! Seriously?” she exclaimed.
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“What’s so funny?” I asked as I slipped back into my seat.
“Your brother is just hilarious,” she said, sliding her hand over his forearm.
Brother… brother?
Something inside me cracked then, clean and sharp like ice breaking.
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I looked at him, and it felt like looking at a stranger.
He was grinning at the waitress (who was still caressing his arm, by the way), and drinking in her attention like she was water and he’d just walked out of the desert.
He didn’t even glance my way, not once, not until the waitress sashayed off to fetch him a refill for his drink.
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“That’s not funny,” I said quietly. “It’s humiliating and dismissive, and I want you to stop it. I’m your wife, Dave, not your punchline.”
His grin faltered for just a moment before sliding back into place.
“I was just messing with her. Only insecure women get jealous, babe. I married you. You’ve got nothing to worry about.”
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Only insecure women get jealous.
I’d heard that line before, many times. It was his favorite way to shut down any conversation that made him uncomfortable, during any moment when I dared to expect basic respect.
But this time, something shifted. The hurt and confusion I’d been carrying for months crystallized into something else entirely.
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Because it was never about jealousy. No, this was about him humiliating me with his incessant “jokes,” jokes that weren’t even funny; just stupid, barbed lines that mocked me.
I decided then that I wouldn’t give him another opportunity to dismiss my feelings as insecurity or paranoia.
Instead, I made myself a quiet promise: You’re going to feel what I’ve felt.
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I slipped the cool wife mask back on and played the part to perfection (I’m just the Meg to his Peter, after all).
But beneath the surface, I was staging something. Not a fight, but a performance that would show him just how funny his take on comedy was.
When our anniversary approached, I pitched my plan like a gift.
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“I’ve got a surprise planned for our anniversary,” I told him over breakfast, watching his face light up with anticipation. “Don’t make any plans for Saturday night.”
“Really? What kind of surprise?”
“The good kind. Just trust me.”
He beamed.
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That Saturday, I took him to the rooftop restaurant where we’d had our first date.
I’d arranged everything with the manager ahead of time, so we were seated at the same table, with the same view of the city sprawling beneath us like a carpet of stars.
“I can’t believe you remembered this place,” he said, reaching across the table to squeeze my hand. “You’re amazing.”
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I smiled back. “I thought it was poetic to end things where it all began.”
He laughed, but there was something nervous about it now. Maybe he was finally paying attention.
I reached into my purse and slid a white envelope across the table. He opened it with that same expectant grin, probably hoping for love notes or theater tickets.
Instead, his face went sheet-white.
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“If you’re joking, honey…”
But I just smiled. If the signed and notarized divorce papers I’d just presented to him weren’t clear, the note I’d paper-clipped to the front should’ve been.
“You said only insecure women get jealous,” I’d written. “So this must be what a confident woman looks like.”
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For the first time in months, he was speechless. His mouth opened and closed like he was trying to form words that wouldn’t come.
I stood up calmly, leaned down, and kissed his cheek one last time.
“Next time you’re at the bar, you can tell the waitress that your sister finally grew a spine.”
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The aftermath was predictable.
He called, and when I didn’t answer, he left voicemails. Then he sent long, rambling texts about how he “didn’t mean it that way” and how I was “overreacting” and how we could “work this out.”
But I never answered. I didn’t even bother to block his number.
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Let him yell into the silence, let his jokes echo back at him from the dark.
Now I live in a quiet apartment with sun-streaked floors and soft music playing from speakers I don’t have to share.
I sleep diagonally across the bed, eat ice cream for dinner when I want to, and laugh only when something’s actually funny, not because I’m supposed to.
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When people ask what happened to my marriage, I just smile.
“I realized I’m funnier without him.”
