My boyfriend downstairs area smells like a rubbery latex smell like condoms….and we don’t use condoms. And I know that you’re probably thinking I’m projecting be I’m cheating myself, but I’m not. We’ve been dating for 10 years, and although l’ve never caught him ACTUALLY cheating on me, but he has done plenty of stuff like lying or being unfaithful. For example, he has gone to parties without me and taken pictures with a girl and hide it a hidden album on Snapchat called “my eyes only” protected by a password.
He has downloaded cash app at work to secretly send money to someone, and before he gets home from work, he deletes the app so l can’t see it. There’s plenty more but the point is, he doesn’t have the cleanest track history. So in moments like this where I am trying to trust his word for it that he “doesn’t know where the rubber smell is coming from”, I don’t know if I believe him. He’s claiming that it’s sweat but l’ve been with him for 10 years now and his sweaty dirty penis smells very different from what I smelled.
First thing I would ask is, are you cheating? If the answer is no and you are not flirting with other men, then I would say it is primarily insecurity. He may feel that you are a higher value woman that he deserves. In a way this is a complement to you. On the other hand, he has poor self esteem and that is not an attractive trait.
Assuming you are faithful and devoted, he will have to ‘un-fuck’ himself or he will drive you away. Either with the crushing pressure of always trying to justify yourself for something you aren’t doing, or by you just saying “Fuck it, I’m paying the price for it. I might as well go find a confident guy with a huge cock and enjoy what I am suffering for”. Or worse yet, he becomes unstable and violent and drives you away by putting you at physical risk. What ever you do, if you get ANY inclination that this is coming… it is. Trust your gut and get the fuck out, fast. Your instincts will not fail you in this. Trust you intuition, not his pleading.
This is a mess of his making, not yours. He is responsible for his thoughts, words and deeds. If he cannot master his mind, it’s not your duty to take lumps for it.
